Breathe More, Babble Less

Dear Alan J. Blair-

I get talkative when I get nervous and I think this might be tripping me up in interviews. How do I know if I’m talking too much?

~Chatty McChatterson

Let’s be honest — people love to talk, especially when one is nervous. Sometimes way too much. But when it comes to job interviews, saying less (while still saying the right things) can make all the difference. Interviewers want to get to know you, not get lost in a rambling monologue.

It’s completely normal to be nervous, and some of us tend to over-explain when we're anxious. If that sounds like you, here are some simple ways to rein in the ramble and keep your answers sharp and effective:

• Breathe. No, seriously. Deep, conscious breathing not only calms your nerves but also keeps you from filling silence with unnecessary chatter.

• Prepare in advance. Walk into the interview with confidence by reviewing common questions and planning bullet points for your answers. The more prepared you are, the less likely you’ll talk in circles.

• Let the interviewer lead. Listen carefully to their questions and take a moment before responding. You’re not being timed, and thoughtful pauses are better than running commentary.

• Be concise. Respect your interviewer’s time. If they look glazed over or you realize you’ve been talking without a break, wrap it up. Short, on-topic answers leave room for them to ask follow-ups — or move on.

• Don’t fill the silence. If there’s a pause, take a breath and wait. It’s not your job to fill every gap in conversation. Sometimes they’re just collecting their thoughts.

• Answer appropriately. A yes/no question does not need your life story. For example:“Have you used calendar reminders in MS Outlook?”Good answer: “Yes, at [Company], I used them to stay on top of weekly team meetings and deadlines.”Not-so-good answer: “Well, there was this one time I meant to use it for my ex’s birthday party and forgot, and then…” You get the idea.

• Stick to the question. If they ask for an example, give one — not five. You’re not trying to win them over with volume. In fact, doing so might hurt your chances by showing you have trouble staying on track.

Go in with a few strong, relevant work stories in your back pocket and remind yourself: interviews aren’t meant to be therapy sessions. Talk when needed, pause when helpful, and save your longer rants for your friends after you land the job.

You've got this.

Best wishes,

A Former Rambler Turned Interview Whisperer